Baby boy is 15 weeks today. ❤
My parenting approach and state of mind has changed significantly as of late, and baby boy has also improved, becoming a tad less fussy.
Or maybe it’s his temperament improving that’s led to my relaxed being. 🤔😆
Either way, I’ve been reflecting a lot on how I did things with baby girl.
She was easier, but it was still hard. Other than temperament, the other marked difference between then and now?
I wasn’t reading everything on social media and second guessing myself at every turn.
In other words, I went with the flow.
I accepted (to some extent) all the stages. I didn’t look things up constantly, I didn’t try to change things (much). I went along with pamphlets given to me by the maternal health nurses…
And I got up, changed her, fed her, got her to sleep, and repeated, with greater blocks of time extending between all three as she got older.
Age improved certain elements of this cycle over time.
I just worked it out, as I went along.
I’ve realised in the last couple of weeks that I need to apply the same mentality to this time around. I’ve become so focused on controlling the situation and steering the outcome, something I learnt on the long journey to pregnancy this second time around that it isn’t a good idea.
Trying so hard to hold onto something often means missing a lesson or an important learning.
So I’ve been remembering. Applying my old learnings to my days. Moving intuitively.
And as my bestie said to me “you’ll get through it.”
So simple, but so true.
We get by. We get it done.
We get there.
And so, but with something else now entirely, I’m still getting there. 🙏