There is something that I’ve learnt in recent days that I wish to share with you.
Often in life we want something. It can be fair to assume at every point in life, we are wanting something… be it love, a house, more money, the ideal career, friends, self-fulfilment… the list goes on and on and on.
Let’s say you are meeting someone for dinner. It’s someone you don’t know well… for arguments sake we will say it is a work colleague who you have just met. And as you wait at the restaurant for them… they are late. Increasingly late, as time goes on.
Tick tock. Tick tock.
Where does your mind go? More than likely the worst case scenario pops up.
He stood me up?
Where is she?
How could she do this to me?
What the hell?
Now let’s change things slightly.
Let’s say you are meeting a loved one for dinner. Someone you know very well. Someone you have known for most of your life.
And now, they are late.
Notice how your thoughts towards this… change.
Hmmm, maybe she got stuck in traffic. Hope she is ok.
Probably looking for parking.
He will be here soon.
I will have another drink while I wait…
Do you know what the underlying belief behind all these varying responses is?
The belief that no matter what, your loved one will be there.
They will get there.
There is no disappointment. No anger. No misplaced frustration.
Just understanding. Curiosity even.
Confidence, most of all.
And this has been rotating around in my head for a while now. The analogy that to attract the things we want, we need to treat those things like our loved ones, instead of like new work colleagues who we don’t know from a bar of soap.
Instead of being confused, resentful and unhappy when your ‘thing’ doesn’t show up…
You need to be strong in the belief that it WILL come.
It is just around the corner.
It took a wrong turn.
It got held up at that busy intersection.
It is in the toilets applying some lipstick.
And, more often than not, when you momentarily forget, and distract yourself with what to order from the menu… you will look up and your ‘thing,’ will be there, standing in front of you.
Arriving when you didn’t even notice.
I honestly didn’t stand on the edge of the balcony, for ages. It was left over from the fear of walking onto it AT ALL for those two years that we avoided it while we waited to get it repaired. Finally when most of our kitchen reno was done we got onto it, and even after it was all well and good, and the wood was good, I still forgot that I was allowed to walk to the edge.
I got so used to being scared of the edge.
Today as I had my lunch outside in the sun, I walked right to the edge. Looked down at the ground below, watched my feet sticking out beneath the new wired barricade. Looked back up.
And there was a flash of light. Far into the Bay before me, was the tiniest glimmer of some ‘thing,’ what it was I could only speculate… and every so often, with the reflection of the sunlight, it glinted towards my eye.
I tried to locate it again. I tried and I tried. When I searched for it, it didn’t appear to be anywhere…
It appeared to be, GONE.
But then I looked away for a few moments. I looked at the road and the houses before. I looked at how I could see the outline of the coastline on the other side of the Bay. I thought of picking up baby girl for school shortly.
And when I did glance back towards the water, I noticed the glint coming from off the side of where it had originally been… it had moved… it was closer to the shore.
It was still glinting.
For only a moment.
But it was there. Coming closer to me when I wasn’t watching.
And that my friends, is my lesson for you, and for me.