I remember a line I read in a pregnancy book, a few days after coming home with a very newborn baby girl.
I was in a state of panic and fear and frustration, and this book said something along the lines of:
“Lower your expectations.
There you go.”
Essentially what I was being told was to not expect much AT ALL. It was a new, confusing and confronting time of our life, becoming new parents and learning how to raise a small human, and the expectations of anything else that life would bring, including this little being herself, was lower than NIL.
It was the only functional place to operate from. Expecting anything higher, would result in severe disappointment, and as a new Mum that is a dangerous place.
I can’t help thinking of that time again today.
Because today, with the PM announcing approximately 6 months of living in self-isolation, avoiding gatherings, unnecessary social occasions, events and the like, well it all feels very sad.
We need to lower our expectations to a new kind of normal.
And with that, I realise that by lowering my standards of what I expect life to be and look like, I will essentially be raising the bar for this blog.
Because I will be looking for even more simple and inventive ways to be grateful… all without my little every day luxuries.
My catch ups with friends.
Getting my hair done.
Going to the park.
Going to the movies.
Grabbing a coffee at the local café.
Eating out on a Saturday night.
Discovering a new place.
All of this will be, if predictions forecast accurately, put on hold. And sure, 6 months is hopefully the maximum time this will be imposed on us.
Even more hopefully, this will all end WAY BEFORE the 6 months are up.
But in the meantime… lower your expectations.
I’m already thinking of writing. So much writing. And reading SO SO much.
Movie nights in.
Long D&Ms on the phone.
Running around the yard.
And one that Hubbie and I thought of tonight… talking to our people, via webcam, and skype!
Imagine the full blown catch-ups we can have if we link it up to a computer and cheers! the night away!
We might all end up creating a new and simple way to live our lives, away from the hype, the hoo-ha, the busy busy busy, and the chaos.
Maybe this is happening for a reason.